Cupids Cronies Matchmakers

I started off a few months back with a matchmaker (name left out). And was told that they would set me up on dates and spent many hours talking to me about myself, what I was looking for, and all the other stuff you get to gauge a person (promising so far). I signed up and was actually beyond excited to go this route. Since I work crazy days and hours and am not big for the bar/​club scene I liked this idea of weeding through the BS and having someone get right down to it and set everything up and I just have to show up for dinner! What’s not to like about that? Matchmaker asked me for pictures of my exes which I didn’t think much of since she said she wanted to get a bases of what I was attracted to. After a few weeks OF DEAD SILENCE. I was getting aggravated because if I’m spending all this money I should at least get kept in the loop and receive some sort of regular updates Via text or whatever to let me know how things are going and where things stand. I started texting my matchmaker regularly expressing this issue and she would follow up with a call and give me the 411. I explained to her I want updates on occasion so I feel like I’m part of this and haven’t been forgotten. God forbid right? Any self respecting person would do the same for the amount of money you put in to be a client.
There were always tons of potentials but nothing led to a date… frustration is mounting after a month and a half passes… one guy was promising but he didn’t like the idea of not seeing a picture beforehand which I can understand. I told them I don’t care if he sees my picture, I am not willing to jeopardize a good potential guy over a stupid picture. nothing happened sadly with him (not anyone’s fault) but maybe a date could have happened if this would have been DISCUSSED with me the first time around… you know during that super quiet period I received.
So FINALLY she tells me she has a date for me. Since I work out in the burbs I had to take a day off from work as I wouldn’t make it back to the city in a decent hour and he was leaving the country soon for work. I show up… freaking out because a blind date is as weird and awkward as it gets. I turn around and… ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING I WASN’T LOOKING FOR! I was upset but brushed it off and sat down for dinner. To say this guy was a pansy wallflower is an understatement… not Type A like I said I wanted, physically everything I didn’t want. AND he lied about his height… I’m 5 10 so that’s a huge deal breaker for me and my matchmaker knew that. And seeing as how she met with him in person she easily saw and gauged his height knowing FULL WELL he was too short. I literally had to lead and dominate the whole conversation (not to mention offer him water since it sat in the bottle for 15 minutes after they brought it and he didn’t offer me a glass). I was the dude on this date and certainly left without exchanging numbers.
I called her the next day and went on a rant and her response was to let me know she’ll focus more on guys that are strictly physically appealing and less on the other things… I’m sorry but you don’t go around passing passive aggressive remarks and making me come off as superficial when you ASKED ME what I was attracted to. After another few weeks I come to find out she got fired and the owner was taking over (not just me but all the fired matchmakers clients) who doesn’t even live in Chicago but comes here often.
I was uncomfortable and just started to realize that maybe the timing with this company wasn’t right since there was so much transition and shifting happening and it might be best I step back and stop. How can someone be my matchmaker when you don’t even live in this city? I spoke with the owner on the phone and she told me she already had 3 potential guys lined up for dates for me… how can you have guys for me when you haven’t even met me yet, talked to me, or gotten to know my personality? That’s key in my opinion. And when we discussed my horrible date and she told me that my ex matchmaker went off the pictures of my ex to find me someone looks wise… it occurred to me that this is a stupid idea because those exes span over many many years and what I liked in college I might not anymore and that phase might have been outgrown. And they are exes for a reason so why would I want someone who reminds me of him in the looks department? Interesting.
She got a bit pushy with trying to keep me on as a client and all this bribery and talk of guys and dates and completely disregarding my wishes to step back and stop… I’m young and not desperate so I wasn’t doing this because my clock is ticking but because it seemed fun and a new angle on dating I was curious about. She emailed me back about not giving up and quitting etc etc. Honey, I’m not a quitter or giving up but you can’t push a square peg in a round hole and expect a triangle. Life is about timing and this was not mine with them